Thoughts on a Rainy day

Rainy days are fun. Rain brings in happiness when watched from a dry and safe place. Its fun to get all wet and enjoy the natural shower once in a while. The climate that a rain sets in as if the nature has turned off the air conditioning for the whole city. Some rainy nights we get to sleep to the sound of water pouring out. Most romantic books describes rainy days to be a romantic time between the lovers, even most movies portraits the rainy days as fun, the time the lovers get drenched in rain and make out.

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Actually the rainy days are fun, if you don’t need to get to work that day! the cosy climate makes you sleep in for long. If you are fortunate enough to get your food ready by someone then you are lucky. It can be a cosy lazy day. Its even more fun when you are at your parents on a rainy day. My mom makes delicious hot snacks to go with the hot cup of coffee on a rainy day. Sitting on the couch, seeing the rain pouring out, sipping a hot coffee and eating hot snacks is a special feeling. I do miss those times now.

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Rain on a working day is not that fun anyway. Have to get to office in that rainy anyway. Maybe an hour or two late. If you don’t have a car and using a public transport or riding a motor cycle to work then its so hard getting to office itself, and the awful traffic on roads due to rain. At some situations you get wet in rain and the clothes are wet. With those wet clothes we have to sit in the air conditioned room for hours shivering and concentrating on work. Rain will mostly spoil your lunch plans as you don’t want to get out in rain to grab lunch. You have just reach office but you are already worried about getting home safe in rain. Rain comes with some sort of practical difficulty nowadays.

In a country like India where rains damages the roads and the roads are flooded with rain water, you sometimes have to walk trough the water to get to places. In the same time we need rain to solve the existing water problems. We all talk about how the rain water gets wasted on roads during the rainy season but never care to set up the rain water harvesting in our own houses before the rain arrives. We don’t learn the lessons that rains teach us each year. Both our government and us needs to get serious on saving the rain water.

We do expect rains in the dry summer days expecting to get a relief from the hot sun, but when we get them during the rainy season we are not much concerned. We need rains to full our water reserves for our farming and for us to have an uninterrupted supply of drinking water. It huge time India starts being serious with rain water harvesting and plant more trees for more rains.

Rainy romantic days are fun in books and in movies. Rain is really fun when we watch it from a distance, when we are safe and dry. Rain is fun to get in to and get all drenched and play in all natural shower. The smell of the rain hitting the dry soil is really refreshing. The cool climate that a rain brings in a such an experience, the fully cleaned city and the refreshing greener city that the rains leaves behind is worth it all the time.

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The love I am waiting for <3

Everyone deserves love and every one feel love in a different way.  There are different ways people express their love, it differs from person to person. Everyone’s love language is different. A happy couple understands each other’s love language and communicates love in the way their partners can understand.

Everyone feels love a different way, some like to shower their significant other with the physical expression of love, some will express with words, some with gifts, some with caring way too much and more ways. It’s really a gift to get a partner who knows how to love you and loves you the way you feel loved. Everyone dreams for a perfect partner in life but not everyone gets their dreams true, we try and learn to love the person in their own way of love.

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Here is it is going to be just my own dreams of love I want in life. The Kind of love that I wish I could have in life.

I don’t wish I could have a love like in romantic movies or novels, those are almost the love at first sight, falling so deep for a person the moment you see them happens only in movies. For me, love evolves. I expect love to grow each day when you are with that special person, it is always the little things that people do for each other brings them closer. Just like friendship, love has to grow between people to be strong enough to withstand all the challenges in life.

I want a love which is strong enough to know that everyone is imperfect in their own perfect way and love each other with those imperfections. Maybe even adore those imperfections sometimes, because those imperfections are also a part of the personality of the person that truly makes them what they are.

I want a love which understands and encourages to pursue life dreams. The love that serves to be the building blocks of our own selves. The love that encourages to go forward in life and be the light in dark times of life. The love that lets you know it is okay to fail and be there to catch you when you fall and urges you to stand up and keep going for the fight again, to pursue what you started.

I want a kind of love where sharing a dead silence with the each other makes perfect sense same as pouring the heart out. A kind of love where I can just get lost in the eyes that look at me with love, the pair eyes that speaks a special language to each other even across a crowded room. The kind of love that understands each other’s minds even without spoken words.

I want a kind of love that shares my dreams and goals of life and willing to go through all the struggles of life for it together and be there to enjoy the victories of the struggle. A kind of love where there are no judgements but love for who you really are. A kind of love that can see you at your best and at the worst, and still love you the same.

A kind of love who will be each others number one fan, cheering each other in life and enjoying the journey of life. A kind of love that stands up for you on your behalf especially at the time when you cannot do it yourself. The love that knows the worth of you and so as theirs. The love that gets excited for your victories as it was their own. The love whose only motive is your happiness and success.

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Finally the one with glowing eyes which sparkles the moment it sees you, the magic smile that makes you forget the whole world when you see it,the one who gives those butterflies in your stomach, the one who can give the most comforting hugs, the one who knows how you like your coffee and makes it the exact same way, the one who is always excited to see you.

The Love who will be my best friend and a pure MAGIC in life 🙂

 

Little somethings from that someone special

Sometimes the ordinary day turns out to be one of a most treasured memory. We don’t plan anything but things just happen to make the day a treasured memory.  Someday you do nothing at all just spend all day at home, yet you feel so special about the day. It depends on with whom you spend the day at home with. Memories are not only made when you choose to have an adventure, it can also be made when you choose to be lazy with the special person by your side.

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Some moments make you feel special, it can just be a thought that someone thinks of you. How special would you feel when your special person chose to text you at the stroke of midnight on your birthday. It would really be special if the text is from a person who rarely remembers the date! That text being the first text for the birthday really makes you feel so excited and special.

We know nowadays half the communication is done through SMS and WhatsApp. A great comfort with this mode of communication is that the person at the other end may choose to reply back or take his time to respond. Sometimes you know the person at the other end is stuck with a hell a lot of work, but you are just worried about them and decide to text. when that someone special decides to text you in the middle of his work crisis, that text not only brings you happiness but a special feeling of cared for. Sometimes a simple text in the middle of the day just to say hi from a special person makes the day feel brighter.

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Birthdays are special, it becomes more special if your special person decides to spend the day with you. No big plans just the two of you hanging out together at your place. It becomes a treasured memory when you get your birthday cake made by that special person. Time spent with a person who you consider so special is always never enough.

It is not all the talking that counts, sometimes it is very less talking, you get comfortable with the silence between the two. Just having them around at the distance your eyes can cover is sometimes all you want. A movie with the special person where you don’t really talk is sometimes satisfactory.  Sometimes you want to pour out all, moments like holding a large coffee along with that someone special helps in that situation.

It is not the time that counts, it is the person whom you choose to spend the time with is what that really counts.

Joy of being an Uncle

There is a pure joy in being an uncle. A beautiful relationship with a kid whom you love with all your heart. A bond that you form with the kid from the moment you got to hold that tiny human in your hands.

Being an uncle is a gift getting to know a kid right from its birth and being a part of the kid’s life as the kid grows. Uncle gets to spoil the kid with gifts and shower the kid with love. Basically being a person who allows the kids to do some crazy stuff which the parent does not approve.95348e037bdd56f8bfe07a3f4f930b15The uncle usually gets to enjoy the happy kid most of the time, all the nagging cry and tantrums are for the parents. Uncle gets to enjoy the cute smiles and love hugs.

Being an uncle is getting a right to spoil the kids, an uncle can treat the kid with anything to eat as what their little heart desires. An Uncle can hand over a big bar of chocolate to the little kid and enjoy the show of how the little one gets chocolate all over its face and hands.

Being an uncle is being the baby sitter sometimes. The time the kid gets to enjoy a no restriction time of their parents. An uncle is a good story teller, as a kid, I enjoyed all the story time with my uncle. Most of my Indian mythology stories are those which I heard from my uncle.

Uncles can get them any gift they want, can buy them the loudest toy not worrying about to hear the sound of the toy all day at home. Can get the kid a drum set not worrying about the annoying music they are going to make in the initial days to follow. Just get the toy, enjoy the happy face of the kid and you can go back to the silence of your home.

Being an uncle means getting a chance to relive a childhood, getting down to play with the kid without being judged by others. we get to play all our childhood games again at least in the name of teaching the game to the kid. Get to attend all the school functions with no worry of getting the right angle in the camera, can just be there to enjoy the kid’s performance.

Being an uncle means being there always to listen to their problems and being a support to the kid as it grows. Initially, it is fun to see how a little heart trusts you and come to you with their little problems.

The best part of being an uncle is getting to enjoy love in its purest form. The love hugs for those little hands that could hardly hug you, the sweet kisses and the best smiles.

Everything changes with Time!

It’s sometimes strange how some relationships turn around in life. Most of us would have had an unexpected twist in relationships, whether it been friendship, love, family. Everyone changes with time and relationships changes as people involved changes.

We would have seen close friendships fade away with time and busy life. The person who was once the love of life is now just someone you used to know. Close siblings become rivals. On the other side, there are also relationships that grow over time. A  person you meet online becomes a big part of life or the rival sibling grows close as they grow old. we just don’t know how the relationship will turn into future.

We lose friendship mostly because we get busy with life. One of the most first relationships that a person forms with the society are with his friends. Everyone would have had a close friend in his school or college days, the one person who was there throughout the school or college days in every fun and every trouble. The friends who were inseparable through the school days would have lost track when they moved out to a different college. Life gets busy and the communication with the old friends just fades out and finally, we lose track. That is just how life works. But a good friendship will not die. It just lives fresh forever even though the friends don’t communicate for years. When the friends really care for each other, they don’t lose track, just the communication between them gets lesser. They stay informed about the each other’s life, they know what is going on with each other, just that they don’t speak daily. Even after years without communication they can pick the phone and start where they left off, that is the real power of friendship.

Basically, the communications keep persons close, men being a social animal needs other men to survive. Men may have moved from caves to modern cities but his instincts still remain the same. Never hesitate to make a phone call to a long lost friend, friends don’t need a reason to call each other. Friends don’t have egos and they don’t keep tab of counting who always makes the call or who always calls first. so just pick up the phone and dial the number of a long lost friend whom you miss! For sure you would be happy you did it!

 

Being fully present

Have you ever felt you are distant from the person very next to you? Have you ever felt you know more information of a person miles away than the one who is physically next to you? All this modern day communication have lead us to this thoughts. we stay connected to persons far away, in the same time we are losing touch with the persons around us.

When we were kids we always found each other, we rode bikes to meet friends and did not make an appointment to see them. When we made plans to meet we mostly stuck to it because letting the others know you are ditching then was hard. Even when we met at a crowded fair we somehow found each other without the mobile phones. Are we losing some human power with all the modern communication in place?

Nowadays no one is alone at the dinner table. There is no couples dinner anymore. We always reserve a place for our mobile phones on the table. It’s just a couple having dinner with each other and their mobile phones. How interesting the conversation might be when the phone beeps, we become curious to know why it beeped and the conversation losses interest at that point. It’s been more of looking into the phones rather than looking at the person before us.

Are we forgetting to live the moment with the mobile phones? Nowadays when we see a beautiful sunrise, the first thing we do is to reach for our mobile phones to capture the beauty. We are more interested in seeing the sunrise through a lens rather than enjoying it through our eyes. At kids dance recital we could see most parents are busy capturing the event in camera and they forget to enjoy their kids’ performance. When I was a kid we had a photographer whose main job is to capture the event in his camera and the parents sat back and enjoyed the kids dancing. With all the modern cameras now everyone is a photographer.

I have never seen any of my kinder garden stages performances videos. Have seen a few photos of it. My memory of it was how my mom used to describe her memory of my performance. She remembers clearly each move of the dance and how cute I looked with the makeup. , it is all because she was there enjoying her kid’s performance and capturing the scene in her memory rather than in her camera.

Let us put our mobiles phones down and be present with our friends and partners. Let us enjoy each others company without being disturbed by the beeping of the mobile phone. Let us take the time to look into the person’s eyes and feel the conversation we are having with each other.

Is living by social norm a necessity?

A man is said to be a social animal. Even from his very existence on this planet, he has lived in groups. As he became civilised the groups grew up into his society. He made the rules and lived by it. But sometimes living my the rules of the society is not for everyone. There have always been people who broke the rules and some were fortunate enough to live on their own norms. The people who do not adhere to the norms of the society have always been looked down by the society. There were ill-treated and most importantly hurt by the society for being different.

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Standing out of the crowd is not always easy. The society always expects you to be normal. The norms that have been followed for ages cannot change. The people who don’t want to live by those norms of the society has to undergo tremendous pressure to be themselves. Not everyone likes everything. Everyone is different and everyone thinks differently, but the society does not care about every individual. It just goes by its norms. It puts up so much pressure on the evey individual to follow its norms.

When we look closer the society, it is non-other than our family, friends, coworkers and a bunch of people we know. So the decisions we make in not following the norms of the society and decide to be different affects each one of them in one way or another. If everything is normal no one is going to care about it, but when things are different people get talking about, they are just curious to know why and what’s. Not every why and what question comes to the person who is different, most of the questions are posted to the people around him. That’s when they are not comfortable in letting someone they know to be different. There is nothing to blame them.

But being different is not that easy, and not everyone chooses to be different. Many just give up and adapt to follow what the society tells them to do and just become a society norm. There are few who does not give up being themselves. It’s not that they want to be different, they just want to be true to themselves. They even try to follow the norms and try act normal. At one point when they cannot do it anymore they give up. One cannot just live to satisfy the people around, one needs to live for his own happiness. One has to follow his own heart for his happiness to follow him.

The simple norms of the society like getting a college degree, getting a job, getting married, having kids is sometimes not for everyone. If someone decides to get off the line from the normal and have his own way of life we should be supportive and encourage him to follow his happiness. The society should give up convincing people that being normal is good. The society should grow up more to accept people for who they are and respect their thoughts and allow them to live their own lives without judging them in any way.

Living life to the fullest can be fulfilled only by living with happiness. 🙂