Little somethings from that someone special

Sometimes the ordinary day turns out to be one of a most treasured memory. We don’t plan anything but things just happen to make the day a treasured memory.  Someday you do nothing at all just spend all day at home, yet you feel so special about the day. It depends on with whom you spend the day at home with. Memories are not only made when you choose to have an adventure, it can also be made when you choose to be lazy with the special person by your side.

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Some moments make you feel special, it can just be a thought that someone thinks of you. How special would you feel when your special person chose to text you at the stroke of midnight on your birthday. It would really be special if the text is from a person who rarely remembers the date! That text being the first text for the birthday really makes you feel so excited and special.

We know nowadays half the communication is done through SMS and WhatsApp. A great comfort with this mode of communication is that the person at the other end may choose to reply back or take his time to respond. Sometimes you know the person at the other end is stuck with a hell a lot of work, but you are just worried about them and decide to text. when that someone special decides to text you in the middle of his work crisis, that text not only brings you happiness but a special feeling of cared for. Sometimes a simple text in the middle of the day just to say hi from a special person makes the day feel brighter.

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Birthdays are special, it becomes more special if your special person decides to spend the day with you. No big plans just the two of you hanging out together at your place. It becomes a treasured memory when you get your birthday cake made by that special person. Time spent with a person who you consider so special is always never enough.

It is not all the talking that counts, sometimes it is very less talking, you get comfortable with the silence between the two. Just having them around at the distance your eyes can cover is sometimes all you want. A movie with the special person where you don’t really talk is sometimes satisfactory.  Sometimes you want to pour out all, moments like holding a large coffee along with that someone special helps in that situation.

It is not the time that counts, it is the person whom you choose to spend the time with is what that really counts.

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Joy of being an Uncle

There is a pure joy in being an uncle. A beautiful relationship with a kid whom you love with all your heart. A bond that you form with the kid from the moment you got to hold that tiny human in your hands.

Being an uncle is a gift getting to know a kid right from its birth and being a part of the kid’s life as the kid grows. Uncle gets to spoil the kid with gifts and shower the kid with love. Basically being a person who allows the kids to do some crazy stuff which the parent does not approve.95348e037bdd56f8bfe07a3f4f930b15The uncle usually gets to enjoy the happy kid most of the time, all the nagging cry and tantrums are for the parents. Uncle gets to enjoy the cute smiles and love hugs.

Being an uncle is getting a right to spoil the kids, an uncle can treat the kid with anything to eat as what their little heart desires. An Uncle can hand over a big bar of chocolate to the little kid and enjoy the show of how the little one gets chocolate all over its face and hands.

Being an uncle is being the baby sitter sometimes. The time the kid gets to enjoy a no restriction time of their parents. An uncle is a good story teller, as a kid, I enjoyed all the story time with my uncle. Most of my Indian mythology stories are those which I heard from my uncle.

Uncles can get them any gift they want, can buy them the loudest toy not worrying about to hear the sound of the toy all day at home. Can get the kid a drum set not worrying about the annoying music they are going to make in the initial days to follow. Just get the toy, enjoy the happy face of the kid and you can go back to the silence of your home.

Being an uncle means getting a chance to relive a childhood, getting down to play with the kid without being judged by others. we get to play all our childhood games again at least in the name of teaching the game to the kid. Get to attend all the school functions with no worry of getting the right angle in the camera, can just be there to enjoy the kid’s performance.

Being an uncle means being there always to listen to their problems and being a support to the kid as it grows. Initially, it is fun to see how a little heart trusts you and come to you with their little problems.

The best part of being an uncle is getting to enjoy love in its purest form. The love hugs for those little hands that could hardly hug you, the sweet kisses and the best smiles.

Everything changes with Time!

It’s sometimes strange how some relationships turn around in life. Most of us would have had an unexpected twist in relationships, whether it been friendship, love, family. Everyone changes with time and relationships changes as people involved changes.

We would have seen close friendships fade away with time and busy life. The person who was once the love of life is now just someone you used to know. Close siblings become rivals. On the other side, there are also relationships that grow over time. A  person you meet online becomes a big part of life or the rival sibling grows close as they grow old. we just don’t know how the relationship will turn into future.

We lose friendship mostly because we get busy with life. One of the most first relationships that a person forms with the society are with his friends. Everyone would have had a close friend in his school or college days, the one person who was there throughout the school or college days in every fun and every trouble. The friends who were inseparable through the school days would have lost track when they moved out to a different college. Life gets busy and the communication with the old friends just fades out and finally, we lose track. That is just how life works. But a good friendship will not die. It just lives fresh forever even though the friends don’t communicate for years. When the friends really care for each other, they don’t lose track, just the communication between them gets lesser. They stay informed about the each other’s life, they know what is going on with each other, just that they don’t speak daily. Even after years without communication they can pick the phone and start where they left off, that is the real power of friendship.

Basically, the communications keep persons close, men being a social animal needs other men to survive. Men may have moved from caves to modern cities but his instincts still remain the same. Never hesitate to make a phone call to a long lost friend, friends don’t need a reason to call each other. Friends don’t have egos and they don’t keep tab of counting who always makes the call or who always calls first. so just pick up the phone and dial the number of a long lost friend whom you miss! For sure you would be happy you did it!

 

Being fully present

Have you ever felt you are distant from the person very next to you? Have you ever felt you know more information of a person miles away than the one who is physically next to you? All this modern day communication have lead us to this thoughts. we stay connected to persons far away, in the same time we are losing touch with the persons around us.

When we were kids we always found each other, we rode bikes to meet friends and did not make an appointment to see them. When we made plans to meet we mostly stuck to it because letting the others know you are ditching then was hard. Even when we met at a crowded fair we somehow found each other without the mobile phones. Are we losing some human power with all the modern communication in place?

Nowadays no one is alone at the dinner table. There is no couples dinner anymore. We always reserve a place for our mobile phones on the table. It’s just a couple having dinner with each other and their mobile phones. How interesting the conversation might be when the phone beeps, we become curious to know why it beeped and the conversation losses interest at that point. It’s been more of looking into the phones rather than looking at the person before us.

Are we forgetting to live the moment with the mobile phones? Nowadays when we see a beautiful sunrise, the first thing we do is to reach for our mobile phones to capture the beauty. We are more interested in seeing the sunrise through a lens rather than enjoying it through our eyes. At kids dance recital we could see most parents are busy capturing the event in camera and they forget to enjoy their kids’ performance. When I was a kid we had a photographer whose main job is to capture the event in his camera and the parents sat back and enjoyed the kids dancing. With all the modern cameras now everyone is a photographer.

I have never seen any of my kinder garden stages performances videos. Have seen a few photos of it. My memory of it was how my mom used to describe her memory of my performance. She remembers clearly each move of the dance and how cute I looked with the makeup. , it is all because she was there enjoying her kid’s performance and capturing the scene in her memory rather than in her camera.

Let us put our mobiles phones down and be present with our friends and partners. Let us enjoy each others company without being disturbed by the beeping of the mobile phone. Let us take the time to look into the person’s eyes and feel the conversation we are having with each other.

Friendzone- The yellow light.

Some relationships in life will not always go the way we wanted, whether it is a simple relation with a neighbour next door or with a friend or with the someone special in life. There is a time in each relationship where one feels neglected or mistreated. The better way to solve all the problem is with an open mind conversation. The conversation is better when both people sit down with the mind of ending the differences rather than just to have a talk. Limited the number of people the better the conversation goes.

If we see a love relationship as the traffic signal, the green for a love relationship and red for no relationship. There is this yellow where you can decide on whether to drive fast to cross the traffic lights or just stop at the traffic. The only difference here is the decision to make because in every relationship there is only one traffic signal and the lights get off once the decision is made. The best part is once you decide the red, you have to take a different route altogether if you decide to cross the yellow light, the traffic light may turn red or if you are lucky to green. But you never know which colour the light is going to change.

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Sometimes you see a person and feel the positive vibes of a good connection with them. Luckily you get to know them better and with time they become a special person in life or just you feel they are special to you. Become good friends, you hang out with them often and you really enjoy having them around. You know you are falling for them and even try to express it in a more subtle way when you are around them. They are most aware of what is going on ( least you think so! ) and does not react the way you want them to. The situation here could be anything from wrong communication to being friend zoned.

You cannot just get out of such relationships so easy. The only way to go ahead here is to communicate or verbalise your feeling for them. Even then this can take make or break the relationship altogether. If they also have the same feeling for you and just not sure of what other thinks then communicating will take the relationship to a new path. In the dark side when you express your feeling and they don’t want the same things as you do then it could end up in the disaster of losing that person for life.

You might have a million thoughts going through in your head in deciding how to get out of this friend zone in the relationship. Relationships are always two-way. The love and affection should flow both ways for a happy relationship. It cannot be just you having all the feeling and the person on the other side is cool being just friends. It totally depends on how deep is your feeling for the other. There is a humungous change of misreading the other when you develop feelings. You might take everything that comes your way as a good sign to support your feeling but that could have just been a kind gesture. So better get clarified.

At times the yellow light seems perfectly fine. You are allowed all the friends and more privileges here, you can be that over-caring friend. You can still hang out with each other or just two of you and enjoy each others company. You can enjoy having that special person around you. You get to voice out your mind with a friends tone! Sometimes when we are not very sure about the others feelings and does not want to break or lose it all, being friend zoned is not a bad thing. The best thing about this yellow light is that you can always test the waters before getting a plunge.

Relationships are hard but worth every effort you put into it. It is a great feeling that someone cares for you not because they made you, they care just because they like you the way you are! The only thing with the relationship is the never ending effort it requires but those are the not too hard if you get a person who is worth loving every day and you are lucky if that special person makes you feel loved the same way you love them.

 

Is living by social norm a necessity?

A man is said to be a social animal. Even from his very existence on this planet, he has lived in groups. As he became civilised the groups grew up into his society. He made the rules and lived by it. But sometimes living my the rules of the society is not for everyone. There have always been people who broke the rules and some were fortunate enough to live on their own norms. The people who do not adhere to the norms of the society have always been looked down by the society. There were ill-treated and most importantly hurt by the society for being different.

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Standing out of the crowd is not always easy. The society always expects you to be normal. The norms that have been followed for ages cannot change. The people who don’t want to live by those norms of the society has to undergo tremendous pressure to be themselves. Not everyone likes everything. Everyone is different and everyone thinks differently, but the society does not care about every individual. It just goes by its norms. It puts up so much pressure on the evey individual to follow its norms.

When we look closer the society, it is non-other than our family, friends, coworkers and a bunch of people we know. So the decisions we make in not following the norms of the society and decide to be different affects each one of them in one way or another. If everything is normal no one is going to care about it, but when things are different people get talking about, they are just curious to know why and what’s. Not every why and what question comes to the person who is different, most of the questions are posted to the people around him. That’s when they are not comfortable in letting someone they know to be different. There is nothing to blame them.

But being different is not that easy, and not everyone chooses to be different. Many just give up and adapt to follow what the society tells them to do and just become a society norm. There are few who does not give up being themselves. It’s not that they want to be different, they just want to be true to themselves. They even try to follow the norms and try act normal. At one point when they cannot do it anymore they give up. One cannot just live to satisfy the people around, one needs to live for his own happiness. One has to follow his own heart for his happiness to follow him.

The simple norms of the society like getting a college degree, getting a job, getting married, having kids is sometimes not for everyone. If someone decides to get off the line from the normal and have his own way of life we should be supportive and encourage him to follow his happiness. The society should give up convincing people that being normal is good. The society should grow up more to accept people for who they are and respect their thoughts and allow them to live their own lives without judging them in any way.

Living life to the fullest can be fulfilled only by living with happiness. 🙂

 

 

It is all about making time

Time is one of the most precious aspects of life. We all have limited time on earth and its the one thing we know for sure, we should take most care in how we spent our time. Time is one perishable good that we often let go wasted without realising it.

We waste out time things we don’t like or spend time on doing things we don’t enjoy.  It is mostly like spending more time at work, working on unrealistic deadlines,  or being in a relationship that does not make us happy. We are not spending time usefully when we are not happy with what we do.

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We always come up with an excuse we don’t have time, but actually, we make up that excuse for things we don’t give a priority for.  Most of the time if we are working more than the stipulated office hours, it basically means we lack smart work. Or we are accepting more task than what we could be done within the working hours. We should learn to say no often when we know saying yes costs us more time.

When someone says they have no time to workout it is just because they don’t make time for it. No one it too busy, it is all just bad time management. We should learn to prioritize our things so we could make time for all that really matters.

Everyone is given the equal time of twenty-four hours a day when some find time to do all their heart wishes, there are others who just don’t find enough time to eat amidst their busy work schedule. We should understand that the schedule is made to help us manage our time and not to tie up with work all the time.

It is always said life is all about priorities, we always make time for things that matters to us. The Time management is one of the most important qualities that everyone needs to have. Once we know how to manage our time and make time for things that really matters to us, we would be more happy and peaceful.

We all know time does not stop or wait for anything in this world. Let’s try to make our little time in this world count just by spending time on doing things that bring a big smile on our faces and freeze such time as beautiful memories in our hearts.